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		<title>A baby that has yet to be conceived kept me up all hours last night.</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Jan 2011 20:11:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I'm not terribly worried about being a "good enough" mother, and I'm certain that Scott will be a stellar Dad.  I don't know why, maybe because I know if I were to have a baby it would be because I wanted it very much. And if I want it, I'd certainly try to be good at it. 
The concerns that equipped my eyes with some glorious gray bags today are of the "holy shit, could these fears be more random" variety.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=willingear.wordpress.com&amp;blog=9961788&amp;post=351&amp;subd=willingear&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>The thing about long term relationships is that you don&#8217;t just get your chosen partner.</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 13 Jan 2011 02:25:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[For better or worse, you get their family too.
They become an extension of the couple, and the couple an extension of the family.

When E's grandmother died in early 2009, a full year after I'd left, there was no question that I wanted to say goodbye to her.  After all, I'd known her just as long as I'd known E, 15 years. At the time of her death E and I were still "talking" now and then via email and with a good amount of civility.  He forwarded me the viewing/service information, and I made sure to pick a viewing hour that I was certain he wouldn't attend.  I took the day off from work and headed to New Jersey. 
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		<title>&#8220;609 area code?&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Oct 2010 21:01:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Scott utters this as he reaches across the desk to answer his cell phone.
I figured Scott has people in Jersey, so the fact that my mother might be calling his phone was only a dimly lit possibility as far as I could tell.  But as I finished brushing my teeth I though "It would be L who would do something like that."
I had given her this "key" a few weeks ago, calling from Scott's phone because mine needs to be replaced and only provides the minimal amount of volume and call stability.
She wasn't too struck by this being out of the ordinary. At the time.
"Hiiiiiiiiii..."<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=willingear.wordpress.com&amp;blog=9961788&amp;post=340&amp;subd=willingear&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Spread out in front of me at my workstation is the following:</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 22 Oct 2010 13:36:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[calendar, pen, shoot list, tin foil used to wrap my already eaten lunch, and a piece of paper detailing both the dream I had the night before about my Grandmother&#8217;s house (where I have not been since my teen years) and an updated list of favored names for girls.  The dream and the names came [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=willingear.wordpress.com&amp;blog=9961788&amp;post=337&amp;subd=willingear&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Mornings have changed.</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 19 Sep 2010 13:09:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Instead of waking up from my perpetually recurring dream where I'm in rooms of lined up toilets filled to the brim with other people's shit and piss, I wake up because I actually need to piss.
Then comes the realization that my dreams have only switched gears from predictably fucked up to just a goddamn cliche.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=willingear.wordpress.com&amp;blog=9961788&amp;post=335&amp;subd=willingear&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>When my divorce became final it only seemed natural that I&#8217;d begin to plan a party.</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Aug 2010 19:41:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Originally I had thought it'd be a joint celebration with my Birthday at the end of July, but the courts took more time than anticipated.
This party has been a phantom beacon for me to look to through the divorce process, I never really knew when or where it would be but I knew it would be happening someday.
When things got really tough I even created a Divorce Wish List on Amazon.com to keep my mood light, maybe the prospect of "registering" for my divorce since I'd never registered for my wedding would be something positive to focus on.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=willingear.wordpress.com&amp;blog=9961788&amp;post=318&amp;subd=willingear&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>I guess at one point or another I had to engage in this practice known as the booty call, I just didn&#8217;t realize I was doing it at the time.</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Aug 2010 20:51:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Maybe it escaped my attention because Karl was so good at making me feel like more than a girl he was fucking.  
There would be dinner or drinks or slight hints of romanticism.  And perhaps this "way" was not the proper way to be introduced to the concept of fuck buddies.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=willingear.wordpress.com&amp;blog=9961788&amp;post=310&amp;subd=willingear&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>I know I&#8217;m not the only person who thinks the universe is out to get them with little signs and symbols of recognition and remembrance appearing on a daily basis, confirming that no matter how hard you try to separate &#8211; your past and present will always maintain strings of connection.</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 21 Aug 2010 15:57:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[This time I roll my eyes. It was one thing to see the woman on the subway stairs in front of me carrying a copy of "Don't Make Me Think", a web usability theory book that I associate with E and his return to employment in the Spring of 2003.  But now I'm on the train and staring at the passenger next to me who is wearing a Tshirt advertising the opening of the 14th Street Apple Store on "12.7.07", the date that was our 5th wedding anniversary and the last we would celebrate as a couple.  Less than 2 months after that date, I was going...going...<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=willingear.wordpress.com&amp;blog=9961788&amp;post=308&amp;subd=willingear&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>I’m still trying to properly document how many first meetings I’ve had thanks to the wonder of online dating.</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 18 Aug 2010 01:23:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[No it doesn’t really matter in the long run, but I thought it would be an interesting if not fun exercise.  I had two incarnations online; Spring-late Summer 2008 and beginning again on January first 2009. Honestly, I’m not sure I would have rejoined again but I lost a bet and the loser’s reemergence onto the online scene was the wager.  I’m not kidding.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=willingear.wordpress.com&amp;blog=9961788&amp;post=306&amp;subd=willingear&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>There had been only a slight break in the heat, but anything felt like extreme relief.</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Aug 2010 03:33:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Summer started on full-blast and by mid June I was practically ready for snow.  Scott and I decided to take advantage of sub 95degree temperatures and headed into manhattan where, at my request, we were finally get our Keys to the City.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=willingear.wordpress.com&amp;blog=9961788&amp;post=301&amp;subd=willingear&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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